What To Do?

As I said previously my wife is a goy er x-catholic as she calls it. Oddly enough she has celebrated Jewish holidays most her life. Her second family ( her moms best friend who assisted in raising her, is Jewish). My wife knows the prayers she bakes a mean Challah and because we are vegetarians were close to Kosher ( I said close) having another set of dishes is just too much and well we have no cabinet space! She knows about the HIGH Holidays.. and lets be real every day is a Jewish holiday... seriously.

Anyhow, we eventually plan to have a baby but in that eventually comes with all these things I never though about before. I mean when we were getting married and my father CRINGED when I said I wanted a rabbi and my mom suggested hiring an actor to play the part of the Rabbi i kinda got it .. it hurt because to us even though we happen to be GAY we were still having a wedding and in our minds it was just the same as a hetero wedding .. and it was really . But I get it , i get that its new and they never has a gay kid before and they certainly never went to a gay wedding or hosted one . Honestly ME either but I get it... no rabbi - it only kinda bothers me !
Back to WHAT TO DO .. I want the baby to have a Baby naming its standard Jewish tradition. I consider myself very reformed my dad still go to the synagogue ( Temple) for the High holidays
( i wonder what he prays about ) but i consider myself very Jewish in some regards. I wanted a rabbi at my wedding and I want my kids if and when to have a baby naming and I would like my children to go to a Jewish nursery school. I will say I am not religious though... not sure about G-d and all that . Judaism to me is more cultural/spiritual but not religious.

Anyhow, a baby naming in the Jewish religion is similar to a baptism or a Bris (Jewish circumcision boys) I suppose but different. Its where the family honors, thanks and blesses the baby girl and a Hebrew name is given to the child that usually honors relative. I supposes I should ask my wife if she is OK with this ? I kinda already know she is .. but my issue is what if she wanted the baby to have a baptism? I would so not be OK with this A baptism is so, religious ... in a church and with a Priest and it all about saving the child from what... HELL, the devil possession (this is all from what my wife's tells me) so our child can pass to heaven should it not survive... I am a fatalist and all but lets give the kid a chance! Its just way to much for me, way to Godly for me and the dunk and water and well, I am sorry, Jesus.

So, here in lies my question WHAT TO DO?