All over the place

I am counting down the days for my wife's post-op appointment. I am so excited for the Project Baby. I found new resources and books to read. I also joined some yahoo groups they are mainly for pregnant lesbians ( more for my wife) than me but when resources are limited sometimes you need to just jump right in. Still trying to find blogs, groups and the like for non-bio moms and pregnant butches even though I am not pregnant. I am feel ass though I am all over the place with this. From thinking of names, to nursery design, to the OH shit factor and clothe vs. non cloth diapers. I know, I know .. I am all over the place I am just so excited, scared and everything in between.

My wife schlepped me to an Estate planning meeting held by the Human Rights Campaign. Oddly, i have been all about this prior to her surgery and really thinking about if and when Baby-cakes comes ( we have not even inseminated yest). I am not naive or anything, I am a realist and a part-time fatalist ( hey, I am working on that).

I realize we have to act swiftly and prepare all this stuff and how important it is. Just more hoops we homos have to jump though to ensure we get treated like half a person. Moreover , I realize the many dollar signs that come with this "Estate Planning" i put it in quote cuz Estate is so fancy and well we are more along the lines of "Shack Planning" we dont own yet and our assets well we dont really have those. A set of pearls and the wife's wedding ring and the rest is sentimental stuff I suppose. OK so maybe that just the estate part and there is the durable power of attorney and the Medical directive and this and that and that and more of this.

We both agree its important for us to do this and we realize it more to protect our child/children. We keep saying well if anything shoudl GOD FORBID happen my mom wouldn't and well my family is cool but push comes to shove we have no idea what will happen. Just as I truly believe there is no such thing as an amicable divorce. From what I have seen you try to be nice and sweet after all this is someone you LOVED and CARED for ...Nope MESSY MESSY MESSY.

We heard really great things from The Attorneys that spoke and some Big HRC wig also spoke. Learned a lot i didn't know. Like Nevada does allow second parent adoptions and China, Guatemala and another place makes you sign a disclaimer when adopting stating your not a lesbian or gay therefore you can not Domestic Partner. Most compelling for me was that the Family Attorney said that in his office they know what judge to use because there are Judges in NV that will not side for the GLBT community. Umm.. wait just a minute .. Judges aren't they supposed to be impartial and non bias( ok maybe that was a lil naive). I know this but really for a family attorney to spout thins at a HRC meeting on LGBT Estate Planning.

Ok well I think I will go back to looking at Cribs and strollers and cloth vs. regular diapers. But I will also look up some will and research stuff like that as well. It needs to be done.