Thats Not My Name

In reading all these baby books to better prepare myself I stumbled upon a section in a Gay and Lesbian baby book (there are way too few of those). The book talks about names specifically what the child will call its parents. In a hetero family its easy Mom is Mom or a derivative of and Dad is well Dad. Easy right. Well as much as I would love for my child to call me Dad (I am more male Identified than I am female) I know that would be uber confusing to a child and well I am not sure how that would go over at school.

The book says we should figure this out because otherwise it will be confusing. So far the only thing I find confusing is what to call me. We will both be the child's mother. My wife will be a Bio Mom as she will carry the little bugger. My wife, thinks that the child will decide who is what and what our names will be. I can see some issues if were were to both be MOMMY? It can get really confusing when the kid yells mommy. I know many who say the kids will decide but I am the NEED TO KNOW GUY. Although my with my recent cancer scare I preferred not to know (I'm fine mp cancer) Just like I need to know what sex the baby is ? It make me less anxious I suppose.

We though of a whole bunch of names, my wife suggests IMA which in Hebrew is Mother and quite suiting as my Dad is fluent in Hebrew and was born is Israel and I speak very little but under stand more. But, it reminds me of him, see he calls his mother Ima and so I guess the word association is a lil weird. I dont know why, I love my Dad and I love my Grandmother. Weird. Then we though of just MA ... which is also suitable being that my parents grew up in New York and well the attitude and such that New Yorkers have and all that Jazz but makes me think its too Jersey ...and Mama J wich I like but seems a lil too Ethnic for me - amazing that any other letter sounds better than J following MAMA...

This name discussion is a weekly thing and I only let it rack my brain once a week guess today is that day. If i did not curb it I would be waking up at 3 in the morning freaking out and what my kid is gonna relate to others Hetero Nuclear Families